So, I received my first hate comment this morning and it’s completely knocked my confidence in campaigning and raising awareness.
I was told my attitude is disgusting and that I need to think of others before myself.
All my life, I’ve put everybody before myself, put everyone else’s needs before my own.
Yet the moment I stand up for myself, I get told I have a disgusting attitude?
How much shit do disabled people have to take before they snap?
Why is it OK for bullying?
Right now, I’m the lowest I have ever been. I don’t want to do anything at all.
Yeah, I set out for my blog to be about Positivity but right now, I’m not I’m struggling.
I’ve tried my hardest to carry on educating people rather than getting frustrated.
But I can only handle so much ignorance.
How do you respond to hateful comments? Because I don’t know how too…
Learn to ignore them dear.
I know its easier said than done but that is the best option for one’s own peace of mind.
It takes years of practice. I used to be very bad at ignore negative comments or criticism and used to go around feeling upset.
But I realised that the only one being hurt here was me.
As I grow older I am learning to take such things in my stride.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thank you for your wise words 💚
LikeLike
You are most welcome to free advice anytime 😍
LikeLiked by 1 person
I am sorry that you have to endure such comments. Please know there are many of us out there that vehemently disagree with such comments and are completely in your corner. To that end, if you feel a need to rant or vent then it is something worth us hearing.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thank you Jeff for your kindness, it’s people with a heart of gold like yours who restore my hope in humanity 💚
LikeLike
How do you respond to hateful comments? Tell that person, in your head, to kick rocks. If someone’s talking junk it means you’re doing something right. Keep going, Ami! You’re the best. 😊👍
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks Annlyel! You’re the bestest!
LikeLiked by 1 person
I have an explicit notice on my blog that comments that violates basic respect and safety – basically hate comments- will be moderated. No ifs, ands or buts. I absolutely think you have the right to that. There are thousands of blogs in the world. If some jerk doesn’t like yours, well, plenty of fish in the sea. They can just move along. Choosing to do anything otherwise shows their poison, not anything about you. Easier said than believed, I know, but seriously. People who write those comments deserve being prevented forcibly from hurting you and everyone else with their words.
LikeLiked by 1 person
I couldn’t agree more – trouble is, the comment made towards me was on a campaign I’m involved in and I have no control of removing that persons comment as I was not the one who shared the campaign on Facebook. I did report the comment, but it’s still there.
LikeLike
Sorry to hear that someone has treated you in this way, Ami. Nothing but a bloody idiot so ignore them and as everyone else says, delete them. They are just toxic and a waste of space! If you can’t have a rant on your own blog then where can you have it?! You keep going and inspiring us all with your wonderful writing. You will be fine and get through this as you have exciting times ahead! Please take care. Sending you love and hugs. xx 🙂
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks Aileen – it just baffles me that when able-bodied people stand up for their rights, we accept it. But the minute disabled people fight for their rights, we get bullied for it! 💚
LikeLike
Yes, it just isn’t fair! We have a right to our own opinions just as much as everyone else. Ignore the ignoramus! They aren’t worth it! xx 🙂
LikeLiked by 1 person
Is ignoramus a word? I’ve never heard of it before 😂💚
LikeLike
I’m so sorry that someone would send you such comments. I’m sending you a huge hug 🤗 . I’d just block and delete, no one needs any kind of negativity like that in their life. Xxx
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thank you Suzi, I appreciate your hugs! 😘💚
LikeLiked by 1 person
You hit the nail on the head with the word ignorance.
It is sheer ignorance that drives negative behaviour. I wouldn’t wish disability on my worst enemy but it is only by having a disability that you realise just how isolating it can be. Things you take for granted when you are not disabled suddenly present unseen challenges.
Keep positive and ignore the haters. I read your post on your superhero wedding and thought it a wonderful idea. Focus on your wonderful day and keep being that shining light in the darkness that we all need, disabled or not.
LikeLiked by 1 person
You are absolutely spot on. Thank you so much for your lovely words, I really appreciate them 🙂💚
LikeLike
I have gotten hateful comments as well. Delete them and block the person so they can’t do it anymore. Don’t worry about those few, concentrate on the good comments and followers. I hope you will have a great day in spite of this!🙂😺🌞
LikeLiked by 2 people
Thank you Steve 🙂💚
LikeLiked by 1 person
You’re welcome.🙂😺
LikeLike
I feel very strongly that my blog is not a place for hate of any sort. My response is to delete the comment and blacklist the commenter. The kind of people that leave hateful comments aren’t going to be persuaded by trying to reason with them. Delete, delete, delete.
LikeLiked by 2 people
Noted. Thank you 🙂💚
LikeLiked by 1 person
I bet the person who wrote the hate comment cannot understand what you’re going through. Let it go… You have admirers among the rest of us 😉
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thank you so much 🙂💚
LikeLike
Don’t be defined by some idiots comments.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Agreed. Thank you 🙂💚
LikeLike